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No Excuses, No Complaints, Just the Right Thing

Written by Dr. Jacqueline B. Sallade, Community blogger | Apr 25, 2013 10:09 PM

Do you ever get tired of hearing people whine, make excuses and blame others for their mistakes and problems? It's like "the devil made me do it." Or their mother, your father, your lack of a father, your boss, etc. made them do it. Sure, bad influences, crazy-making mind games, abuse, and neglect set a bad tone, set a person up for stress and depression, but there is free will. Free will gets an addict to quit drugs all by himself. Free will chooses between two lovers. Free will confesses to a crime and asks for mercy. Free will wards off suicidal thoughts and seeks the beauty of life.

I've seen people turn towards integrity, health, and morality off an on all week. They weren't helped by their backgrounds but by a desire to be good and true to themselves and those they love. Just when it would have been easy to give up, to lie, to deny the truth, to whine and complain, to make excuses, they stood tall and brave, faced reality, told the truth, and did what was right and good. They weren't helped by money, looks, vast intelligence, talent, or good fortune. They just decided to be good and just, to do themselves and society a favor, to help rather than hurt.

For all the bad news we get from the media, there are people every day who turn things around for the better.

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  • claudzilla5 img 2013-05-01 08:29

    This may be a hard message for some to hear, Dr. Sallade, but you're so right. And when we see people do the right thing, make choices with integrity and ownership, it's inspiring.

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