Dr. Jacqueline B. Sallade offers advice for maintaining your mental health.
Just within one day, I have here in my life two cases of near death. One is a dear friend, mostly happy, talented, smart, pretty, and in love with her family. She had a brain aneuysm and is hospitalized as I write. Hopefully, she'll do well in surgery and recuperate well. She has everything to live for and looks forward to the rest of her life. The other is a sweet patient, also attractive, smart and talented but with sad memories, problem relationships, and a gap in her life right now. Her situation isn't that unusal and she has a lot to live for, too, with -possible future opportunities. In her case, though , there's mental illness, including depression and anxiety, which havn't responded to medications. and very inconsistently to therapy. When that happens (the lack of progress despite lots of people trying to help, lots of time going from this intervention to that one, and lots of drama, personality problems abound. Sometimes, there's a dilemma and no apparent solution. This patient has suicidal thoughts.
So, person no. 1 craves life, whle person no. 2 thinks of death and destroys her life. She avoids fun and happiness. Blame biochemistry. Blame upbringing. Blame poor choices. Blame personality. It's a mystery and doctors aren't figuring it out. Maybe, she holds the key.I hope so.
Life is precious. When it's threatened, it's scary and painful. When it's abused, it's like a violation.