Dr. Jacqueline B. Sallade offers advice for maintaining your mental health.
A man decides to wax his car, regardless of his rotator cuff injury. He's compelled to take car of material things, which creates an agenda outweighing his physical comfort and the relationship. A woman loves traveling and is always thinking of setting up the next vacation, a task of bucket goals sometimes outweighing relationship pirorities. A couple places their volunteer work to the church above the opportunity to visit their children, compulsively doing good one place and hurting loved ones, too. Some people compulsively pursue their social life, while others compulsively pursue their financial gains. None of these behaviors or values are unusual or dysfunctional in themselves. It is the compulsive pursuit of these values, even to the extent of sacrifices which don't make sense, which is not healthy.
Analyze your priorities. Which ones disturb your health, the peace of your relationships, or conflict with your ultimate goals? Could you compromise? Could you maintain better balance? What will you regret some day? What won't matter?
Published in Self Help Now: A community blog