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What To Wear On A First Date & Fashion Mistakes To Avoid

Written by Erik Larson, Community Blogger | Jan 3, 2018 7:38 PM

In the days leading up to a first date with a man who you believe could easily be the person with whom you're going to spend the rest of your life, it's not uncommon to prepare for how you're going to act, how charming you're going to be, where you're going to spend your first few hours together and obviously what you're going to wear. Despite warnings from friends and family telling you to be aloof and not to give away too much too soon and how necessary it is to be yourself; in the final hours leading up to the date you could end up overdoing the makeup and the outfit and looking at yourself in the mirror thinking you look just like a cartoon character dripping in accessories.

You consider yourself to be classy and fashionable but in your panic to impress, you go overboard thinking that enough is just not going to be enough in your transformation from the wallflower you consider yourself to be into a beautiful goddess that no man could resist. What you really need to do is read this article before every first date and remind yourself that beauty comes from within, natural is so much better than too much fakery and less is so much more.

As you prepare, you realize your skin has broken out with pimples and your hair just doesn't look right no matter how much hair spray you use, when you have a date with a man who could easily be Mister Perfect. This always seems to happen just before an important date but in reality we become especially judgemental of ourselves when we know we are going to be scrutinized for the next few hours.

Just before the big first date you need to relax and plan how you're going to look so you don't answer the door in a fit of panic. Amber Kelleher-Andrews, world renowned matchmaker expert and CEO of Kelleher International states,  "Men are visual creatures. Dress with how you'd like him to treat you long-term. Or not. If you'd like a best friend; jeans, boots and pretty blouse. If you're looking for one-and-done...dress accordingly" A couple of days before the date take out every outfit you deem worthy and try each one on in front of the mirror. This is the time to decide whether you have the perfect outfit or you need to go out and buy something new.

Next you should apply your makeup lightly and with care. If it looks like it's caked on then you need to remove it and start all over again. You can curl or straighten your hair but don't overdo the hair spray. Too much spray, gel or mousse can make your hair look greasy and dirty. Accessories are a must but take some advice from Coco Chanel: "Before you leave the house, look in the mirror and remove one thing".

Now you're all set for your first date and hopefully you're about to have the time of your life with the man of your dreams, but don't forget that during the date your best accessory is your smile and your outfit should complement your personality and not detract from the fact that you're a wonderful person. Too many girls think that what they wear on a first date is the determining factor on whether the date will go well. Remember the success of this first date is so much more about you and your sweet nature rather than the cost of your dress or which designer bag you have on your shoulder.

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